tailieunhanh - How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You phần 2

tốt vì nó khẳng định sự lựa chọn chúng tôi đã dành tất cả đời sống chúng ta. Chúng tôi cũng tìm kiếm những người thưởng thức các hoạt động tương tự vì vậy chúng tôi có thể vui chơi với nhau. Tương tự thực sự là một bệ phóng cho một mối quan hệ tốt cất cánh. Nhưng chúng tôi nhận được chán với sự giống nhau quá nhiều. | judgments about you as a Potential Love Partner. His or her subconscious mind is saying I want someone like me. Well almost like me. If there is to be compatibility for a lifetime or even for a date some similarity is necessary. Our hearts are finely tuned instruments that seek someone who has values similar to ours who holds beliefs similar to ours and who looks at the world in more or less the same way we do. Similarity makes us feel Page 11 good because it confirms the choices we have spent our whole lives making. We also look for people who enjoy the same activities so we can have fun together. Similarity is indeed a launch pad for a good relationship takeoff. But we get bored with too much similarity. Besides we need somebody to make up for our lacks. If we have no head for mathematics who is going to balance the checkbook If we are sloppy who is going to pick up our socks So we also look for complementary qualities in a long-term love partner. But not any complementary qualities only the ones we find interesting or that enhance our lives. Hence we seek someone who is both similar and complementary. In Part Two we will explore methods of planting subliminal seeds of similarity in your Quarry s heart and ways to make him or her know that even though you two are basically alike you are different in so many utilitarian fun and interesting ways. III. Equity The WIIFM Principle of Love Hey baby everybody s got a market value Everybody wears a price tag. How pretty is she How much prestige does he have How blue is her blood How much power does he wield Are they rich intelligent nice What can they do for me Does this sound ugly Researchers tell us love is not really blind. Everybody even the nicest people has a touch of crass when it comes to choosing a long-term partner. It s no different than in the business world where everybody asks WIIFM What s in it for me I can hear some of you protesting No love is pure and compassionate. It involves caring altruism communion