tailieunhanh - THE ASSERTIVENESS POCKET BOOK phần 5

Một cách để làm điều này là thông qua việc sử dụng khẳng định. Nếu bạn giữ cho bản thân bạn là một cái gì đó thì đó là hành vi của bạn chếch bản thân. Nếu bạn nói với bản thân bạn thành công và may mắn thay đổi kỳ vọng của bạn trên thế giới, và giải thích về những gì bạn nhận được từ nó. | RIGHTS RESPONSIBILITIES BASIC ASSERTIVE RIGHTS To set your own goals and objectives You have the right to set your own goals Life is not a dress rehearsal you don t have the luxury of a replay or extra time - this is it and you are in control of what you want to do If you do not set your own agenda you will quickly find that you will be working to one set by others who will not necessarily have your interests at heart To refuse a request or say NO You have the right to refuse When you are working to your own agenda and deciding what is and is not important there will be a limited time for you to do what you want when others make demands on your time you will have to decide whether or not you wish to give it Now and then you will want to say Yes to yourself and No to others - saying No occasionally does not make you selfish it makes you someone who is as concerned for yourself as you are for others 39 RIGHTS RESPONSIBILITIES BASIC ASSERTIVE RIGHTS To ask for what you want You have the right to express your own needs Each of us has needs wants and desires and it is helpful in relationships to express them first it helps others give you what you really want and secondly it also helps them ask for what they want You don t always get what you ask for but will you get what you want if you do not ask To make mistakes You have the right to make mistakes Getting things wrong and making mistakes are essential parts of learning we learn by our errors and we get things right by getting things wrong The only people who have not made mistakes are those who have done nothing with themselves or their lives RIGHTS RESPONSIBILITIES BASIC ASSERTIVE RIGHTS To be the judge of your own behaviour independent of the goodwill of others You have the right to judge yourself if we are people of worth and integrity we do not need other people to tell us what to do and what not to do You can judge your own behaviour not needing the approbation or the criticism of others To get what you pay for